Single Bloggers V-Day Series: Surviving Valentine’s Day

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It’s officially that time of year again. The day that most couples enjoy and won’t ever stop talking about. Yep you guessed it…Valentine’s Day!

Now before I get deep off into this I just want to say that I am NOT a Valentine’s Day hater BUT it’s like us single people don’t feel the love just because of the obvious lack of a lover. That’s why I’m here to tell you all that you are loved and the 1st person to love you is YOU!

While all those couples are all cuddled up doing their romance thing this year you will be surviving Valentine’s Day! How exactly? Again, that’s why I’m here! To give you pointers on how to survive this Valentine’s Day while still feeling great about yourself!

1. Who needs a date when you are your own date? Or maybe a friend…

Yes I said it! Take yourself, or a friend, on a date! Sometime at the moment our friends make the perfect date and you don’t even know it! Dress up and go out to dinner ow even a funny movie?

 

2. Absolutely NO MOPPING!

What are you so sad for? Get off of you butt and be happy! You’re not single because you’re a loser or because you aren’t attractive. You are single because you have standards higher than some peoples ego’s and that should be appreciated! Don’t allow anyone to tell you different.

 

3. Feed your soul AND your face!

Again why not? You have to show your stomach some love too! Take yourself out to a nice restaurant and then go do something fun!

 

4. Rediscover the love for yourself!

Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to always mean showing love and affection to others but it can also mean showing the same to yourself. If you don’t show yourself love then other people can see that. You have to start with yourself before you can start loving someone else and that’s a fact! You don’t have to go buy yourself a spa package, although that sounds lovely right now, and you don’t have to go spend hundreds of dollars doing something for yourself. You can show yourself love by getting more sleep, writing to clear your head, or simply relaxing for the day and enjoying your own company. LOVE YOU!

 

There you have it! My guide to surviving Valentine’s Day this year as a single person! Enjoy being single while you can because once it’s over…it’s OVER! Enjoy this moment and take it in! You are awesome no matter what anyone tells you!

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Why I Love Traveling

I’m single for Valentine’s day this year. And that means I save a lot of money. Relationships take time and commitment. Someday I’ll be in one again, but for now I’m riding solo. I seize each day and maximize every moment. For me, that means traveling. I’m currently backpacking through New Zealand. If I was in a relationship, I couldn’t buy a one-way ticket and travel the world. Being single on Valentine’s day frees me up to treat myself. Here’s why I love to travel

When I was growing up, my family spent so much time taking these road trips. We hung dry our clothes, we never went out to eat, my mom had Folgers coffee instead of having Star bucks. Travel was our one thing. We punted most other luxuries in life. We could cram into our Chevy Venture minivan, see all America, and have my sister and I fight over what VHS tape would go in next (remember those)? The drives were long and boring sometimes. There was plenty of yelling and fighting between the four of us, but I was about to see the whole united states of America before I graduated high school. In school, I would learn about the battle of Gettysburg, get lectured, and see some black and white videos. On these vacations, I saw Gettysburg with my own eyes. I saw re-enactments from the civil war. That brought history alive for me. I experienced different cultures around the united states. I experienced how the spoke, what they wore, what they ate (YUM!), and how they added to the American cultures. When we went to Alaska, my dad and I went to the actual towns. We skipped the tourist traps and saw the small businesses that were the backbone of Alaska. I got the best souvenirs from these locals. I met people from all over who would help me understand the world that I saw.

From these experiences that I’m so thankful for, I ventured out on my own and went to England by myself. For a month. I grew so much during that month and I was so grateful for my friend’s hospitality. I loved going to the local pubs and talking about my country and theirs. We both had so many misconceptions and stereotypes, but talking as people we got to understand each other so much better. I met so many new people and friends throughout the month. Even though I had only a backpack for everything I held, I felt home with the warm hospitality of others. The world can be scary sometimes, but not everywhere all the time like CNN would suggest.

I’ll never forget to have Christmas in Liverpool. I woke up Christmas morning and my good friend Jesse told me to come down for presents. My parents gave me money for my trip, so I figured I would watch him open his. When I get down there, his parents point to a pile of presents and told me they were for me. I was so speechless. I had no idea this would happen. I still smile when of this memory. I loved the fun of the last few days of my trip in London. I had another friend show me around the city the entire day! Again, I saw the parts that were London and didn’t fall for any tourist traps. When I flew back home, I now had a global perspective on how big the world is.

I’m now vlogging and blogging about my travels. I enjoy documenting these trips for a few reasons. The first is I can look back in time and see how far I’ve come. I also get to expose my friends, family, and followers parts of the world they will never experience.
On a trip to Phoenix, I got to help out with a non-profit that helps get women back on their feet and reunify them with their children. There has been no big news story. No heartwarming article was written. When I was there, I gave a little shout out on one of my Youtube videos. If I was traveling and meeting new people, few people would know what kind of good in the world exists. There is so much more good in the world, we don’t show enough of that positive change.
Through my travels, I continue to gain new insights, make new friends, and see how much more good there is out in this amazing world.

 

**Giving a HUGE thank you to Nate Johnson for guest posting for the Single Bloggers V-Day Series!**

Backpacking During the Holidays

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Growing up, I was always around family for the holidays. I celebrated Christmas with my immediate as well as extended family on both sides. In December 2015, that changed. I backpacked the United Kingdom during the month of December, which meant I would be away from my family holiday traditions for the first time. I would miss out on Christmas on both sides of my extended family and cousin gift exchanges. With my immediate family, I would miss the tradition of Junk Food Day. It’s a day where we go to the grocery store and buy junk food we normally don’t eat. I wasn’t sure how it would go. To say I was blown away by my friend’s hospitality was be an understatement. 

Every family I stayed with was incredibly gracious. I experienced my first English Premiere game, experienced the German markets in Manchester and Birmingham, and have a most festive Christmas in Liverpool. I’ll never forget having Christmas in Liverpool. I woke up Christmas morning and my good friend Jesse told me to come down for presents. My parents gave me money for my trip, so I figured I would watch him open his presents and celebrate with his family. When I get down there, his parents pointed to a pile of presents and told me they were for me. I was speechless. I had no idea this would happen. I still smile when of this memory. I thought “I have nothing to give back”, “How will I bring all of this home”, and “This is more than I get at home. I should try this more often”. We spent the morning opening and enjoying presents. That night, I took part in a very delicious five-course meal with friend’s family.

I had fun eating with my friends and their families and learning about how their traditions. I learned Boxing Day is an actual holiday. It’s a bank and public holiday, so families get another day to spend time together. Boxing Day originated in the 1800s. IT’s also a full day of watching futbol (soccer) and so I watched my friend’s favorite team Liverpool play. I celebrated that day almost as much as Christmas.

I learned the families I stayed with had more formal traditions than my own family. My family has a laid back Christmas. I fondly enjoyed dressing up and having nicer meals and afternoon tea. I could most certainly celebrate the holidays in England again.

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**Looks like Nate Johnson had a BLAST backpacking during the holidays! A huge  thank you for being  a  guest blogger!**

Welcome to BLOGMAS!

Ladies, Gentlemen, and anything else that can read!

 

It’s that time of year again and I am so excited to be taking part in my second blogmas as as blogger!

I have some festive themed posts lined up for the month of December as I count down the days until Christmas and I can’t wait to unveil them!

I’ll be hitting all the good stuff such as my widhlist, gift giving guide for him, her, and friends, Christmas styles,  my holiday favorites, and looking back at my year of blogging! In October I hit a full 4 years of blogging. Isn’t that exciting?

In all honesty, I hope everyone enjoys reading my posts! Have a happy holiday and a wonderful new year!

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Couples Wedding Attire Guide

We are still in wedding season and there are couples out there who need help! The real question is…“What do you wear to a wedding?” Now the answer to that question varies. Firstly, what kind of wedding are you and your Love Bug attending? Is it a beach wedding or is it a traditional wedding? You have to know where you’re going before you know how to dress!

I have compiled 5 different outfits for 5 different types of weddings for you and your significant other that will make everyone’s head turn!

 

Casual Wedding

We all go to the traditional casual wedding which is great but some of us an get a tad bit too comfortable and too casual! You don’t have to go all out but don’t go as if you’re going to the grocery store. Simple dresses or skirts with a natural look for the Mrs. and simple dress pants with a simple button down for the Mr.!

Semi-Formal Wedding

Now if the wedding you’re attending isn’t casual BUT it isn’t too formal you need to dress SEMI-FORMAL! This includes your cute dark cocktail dresses and suits!

 

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It’s my dream to attend a beach wedding AND to have a beach wedding of my own but people think it’s hard to dress for the beach but in all reality it’s very simple! Firstly, high heels of ANY sort is a NO-NO! Keep is simple and keep it cute with sandals so you won’t sink in the sand! You should think breezy, comfortable, and weather appropriate which means you need to think about where you live exactly!

Drk & Sophisticated Wedding

You receive your wedding invitation and you have to get all sexy and sophisticated! It’s important to go DARK because dark is not only sexy but it’s also sophisticated and mysterious. Black is the go-to and should be paired with colors such as red or red-orange to give the look a pop of color and your Mr. will be in a traditional tuxedo!

Black Tie Wedding

Dark and Sophisticated is completely different than Black Tie! Black Tie is toned down versus Dark and Sophisticated. The dress is a simple black cocktail dress but your Mr. will still be wearing his classic black tuxedo!

White Tie Wedding

The ULTIMATE type of formal…the kind of wedding that can be considered A ROYAL WEDDING…the WHITE TIE WEDDING! With this type of wedding it’s a MUST that you come looking like you’re related to the Queen of England! For the ladies you’ll arrive in full length ball gowns, in brown or black, and glamorous hair and makeup. The gentleman shall arrive in a tuxedo with a tail, a bow tie, formal shoes, and white gloves for dancing if you feel the need for them! “If you are looking for inspiration then check out this wedding suit and tuxedo page for some fashionable ideas.You’ll feel like you’ve stepped into the Great Gatsby at this wedding!

Also here is a wedding guest style guide for an extra boost!

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There you have it! 5 different styles for 5 different weddings from casual to Great Gatsby formal! Now you and you’re Love Bug will be the HOTTEST couple at the wedding well next to the bride and groom of course! Just remember that it’s not your spotlight to steal! Happy wedding season to you all!

 

 

2017 Experience Bucket List

“Materialism is the ONLY form of distraction from true bliss.” ~Douglas Horton

In today’s world we are all about our iPhones, laptops, and anything else money can buy. We are so glued to our materials that we forget to stop and enjoy ourselves. Personally I always find a way to enjoy myself although many people in older generations say that my generation doesn’t know how to enjoy ourselves without the aid of technology.

In this post, I will be sharing my 2017 Experience Bucket List on things I want to experience this year that have NOTHING to do with materialistic things. As a blogger and as a college student with limited funds I believe that there are things we should experience that don’t involve expensive materialistic things that won’t be around for a long time.

Traveling!

o   Now it’s always been my dream to travel and explore the world! Being a broke college student it seems IMPOSSIBLE to actually travel which is why I have created myself a “Travels Jar.” In my jar I save up with the hopes of traveling to a certain destination. My dream locations to travel are Bollywood, Italy, Greece, and Hawaii.

Photography

o   I have numerous hobbies and photography is definitely in my top 3. I would definitely love to get back into photography this year because it is so relaxing and I am able to see the world through a stronger lens other than my own.

“Crawls”   

o   I know what you’re asking: “What exactly is a crawl?” A crawl is almost like hoping from place to place. The term is mostly used as a “bar crawl.” I, on the other hand, want to use the phrase in many different ways. I would like to go on festival crawls, bar crawls, and even food crawls with a few close friends. It feels good to be out doing things just to have fun without sitting in the house and you get to meet new people.

 

That’s it! That’s my 2017 Experience Bucket List! I want to be able to enjoy my younger years without having to worry about materialistic things. Let’s be honest, the materialistic things won’t be around forever but memories will last FOREVER! This tool can help you plan your own get together’s with friends

Now I want to know how are you going to create new memories and experiences without materialistic things?  Leave a comment below!

21 Things I’ve Learned in 21 Years

On March 25, almost 2 weeks ago, I officially turned 21! I’ve been waiting to post 21 things I’ve learned because it’s hard to think of 21 things you’ve learned that you necessarily didn’t learn in school. After today I can finally say 21 things I’ve learned in 21 years!

 

1. Take risks even if you’re scared!

Have you ever thought to yourself, “If I would have not done that things would be different?”

When you take a chance you are taking a risk! It’s ok to take chances because with every risk we take there’s always a lesson whether it’s good or bad.

 

2. Baby steps are KEY!

I am a semi-fan of change. I like certain changes but other changes I try to stay away from BUT I do believe in taking steps to better myself. You don’t have to take huge steps immediately. Small steps add up to something HUGE!

 

3. It’s ok to screw up!

I can’t stress this one enough! It’s perfectly fine to screw up because WE DON’T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS! I have screwed up many times and for the most part learn from my mistakes! In fact I’m STILL learning from my screw ups but let’s face it our screw ups make the best stories!

 

4. You are worth it!

No need for an explanation! You are worth it…END OF DISCUSSION!

 

5. Don’t allow anyone’s opinions to influence you!

For a while I’ve allowed the opinions of others, including my family, to influence my me and my decisions even if I didn’t agree with them but I realized that I am 21 and this is my life and I have to live it! People will always have an opinion on how you should do things or what they think and they don’t matter!

 

6. You don’t need a large group of friends

I’ve never been the one to have a large group of friends but in college I can say that I can count on both of my hands the number of true friends I really have! It’s not about the quantity of friends you have but it’s about the quality.

 

7. If someone decides to walk out of you life LET THEM!

If someone threatens to walk out of your life then kindly show them the exit! You can’t force anyone to stay in your life.

 

8. It’s ok to be SINGLE!

Yes I’m single and ready for Pringles! Being in a relationship is not as important as loving yourself and knowing your self worth. Be single! Go out and turn-up! Go out with your girlfriends/guy friends! Have fun living the single life!

 

9. Start travelling!

Everyone who knows me knows that if I could be a certified traveler I would in a heart beat! Starting next year I’m going to begin traveling with friends and exploring this world. I’m even in the process of purchasing a passport! Again small steps lead to big things!

 

10. Always be open to learning

Even though I am a college student I am always up to learning something new! Learning extends farther then a classroom. I can walk outside and see something that catches my eye and want to learn more! Don’t limit yourself to learning just in class!

 

11. Your entitled to any emotion but don’t let the negative take over

Yes we are entitled to our emotions! We feel them we should be entitled to them but don’t let the negative emotions create a home inside of you. I’ve learned the hard way that it’s ok to be sad, angry, and even ashamed but don’t allow yourself to live there because once you’re there it’s hard to get out. Give those negative emotions an eviction notice and kick them OUT!

12. Always speak your mind

Leave NOTHING unsaid! If you feel the need to say it then say it! Don’t wait until it’s too late.

 

13. Don’t compare your life to others 

I always compared my life to my friends lives because they always made it seem like their lives were amazing compared to me who’s life seems so boring. Soon I realized that comparing my life to everyone else’s won’t change anything! You don’t know their personal journey and wanting their life means you want their journey and sometimes your life is better than it seems.

 

14. You heal with time

We all understand pain but the pain I feel is a pain that seemed like it would never go away. What it took me time to realize was that I had to give time time! I didn’t heal overnight. Healing is a process and we just have to learn to flow with time.

 

15. Be vulnerable!

If you know me you know I strongly dislike the word VULNERABLE! I’m not as open as people think and honestly I’m just now learning to be vulnerable and open up. I’ve shut so many people out because I was feared vulnerability but I’ve learned that people can actually help me when I open up.

 

16. Dress-up, Show-up, & Show OUT!

The sassy is finally coming out! Don’t let anyone tell you what you can and can’t wear well unless you have to be in uniform for whatever reason. Dress-up in whatever makes you feel good, show-up to your destination, and show out! Shut the room down because you’re making heads roll! Show off your confidence!

 

17. Don’t be afraid to shine

I was always the one person in the shadows of things because I really didn’t want to be in the way but I never understood why. I allowed others steal my shine for so long people wondered if I’d ever shine. Now I shine so bright you need shades on to see me! Don’t allow anyone to put you in the shadows because they want the spotlight. You deserve the spotlight too!

 

18. Live like everything is a passion

Our passion fuels us! I have many passions, seriously I have a love for many things, and I’ve learned to use my passions to my advantage! Everyday I wake up and go on about my day I do things with a passion. If you love what you do you’ll want to continue doing them even if you’re tired or having a bad day.

 

19. Laugh!

Laughter is the best medicine I don’t care what anyone says! It may be an old cliche but it’s a true cliche!

 

20. You don’t have to go out every night/weekend!

Don’t get me wrong I love going out with my friends BUT when does it get old? Yes I am 21 but going out every night or every weekend gets pretty old pretty fast! Sometimes staying in and having a movie night is fun.

 

21. ALWAYS make time for YOURSELF

The last thing I’ve learned is to take care of ME! Sometimes I get to focused on others that I forget about me and I have to take care of me before I can take care of others!

 

Now is that all I’ve learned in 21 years? OF COURSE NOT! But these 21 lesson are the most important! These 21 years have been interesting. I’ve had my good and I’ve had my bad but I wouldn’t change it for the world! I’ve seen 21 years and I can’t wait to see more! So even though my birthday was 2 weeks ago I must say it: HAPPY 21ST BIRTHDAY TO ME!