On March 25, almost 2 weeks ago, I officially turned 21! I’ve been waiting to post 21 things I’ve learned because it’s hard to think of 21 things you’ve learned that you necessarily didn’t learn in school. After today I can finally say 21 things I’ve learned in 21 years!
1. Take risks even if you’re scared!
Have you ever thought to yourself, “If I would have not done that things would be different?”
When you take a chance you are taking a risk! It’s ok to take chances because with every risk we take there’s always a lesson whether it’s good or bad.
2. Baby steps are KEY!
I am a semi-fan of change. I like certain changes but other changes I try to stay away from BUT I do believe in taking steps to better myself. You don’t have to take huge steps immediately. Small steps add up to something HUGE!
3. It’s ok to screw up!
I can’t stress this one enough! It’s perfectly fine to screw up because WE DON’T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS! I have screwed up many times and for the most part learn from my mistakes! In fact I’m STILL learning from my screw ups but let’s face it our screw ups make the best stories!
4. You are worth it!
No need for an explanation! You are worth it…END OF DISCUSSION!
5. Don’t allow anyone’s opinions to influence you!
For a while I’ve allowed the opinions of others, including my family, to influence my me and my decisions even if I didn’t agree with them but I realized that I am 21 and this is my life and I have to live it! People will always have an opinion on how you should do things or what they think and they don’t matter!
6. You don’t need a large group of friends
I’ve never been the one to have a large group of friends but in college I can say that I can count on both of my hands the number of true friends I really have! It’s not about the quantity of friends you have but it’s about the quality.
7. If someone decides to walk out of you life LET THEM!
If someone threatens to walk out of your life then kindly show them the exit! You can’t force anyone to stay in your life.
8. It’s ok to be SINGLE!
Yes I’m single and ready for Pringles! Being in a relationship is not as important as loving yourself and knowing your self worth. Be single! Go out and turn-up! Go out with your girlfriends/guy friends! Have fun living the single life!
9. Start travelling!
Everyone who knows me knows that if I could be a certified traveler I would in a heart beat! Starting next year I’m going to begin traveling with friends and exploring this world. I’m even in the process of purchasing a passport! Again small steps lead to big things!
10. Always be open to learning
Even though I am a college student I am always up to learning something new! Learning extends farther then a classroom. I can walk outside and see something that catches my eye and want to learn more! Don’t limit yourself to learning just in class!
11. Your entitled to any emotion but don’t let the negative take over
Yes we are entitled to our emotions! We feel them we should be entitled to them but don’t let the negative emotions create a home inside of you. I’ve learned the hard way that it’s ok to be sad, angry, and even ashamed but don’t allow yourself to live there because once you’re there it’s hard to get out. Give those negative emotions an eviction notice and kick them OUT!
12. Always speak your mind
Leave NOTHING unsaid! If you feel the need to say it then say it! Don’t wait until it’s too late.
13. Don’t compare your life to others
I always compared my life to my friends lives because they always made it seem like their lives were amazing compared to me who’s life seems so boring. Soon I realized that comparing my life to everyone else’s won’t change anything! You don’t know their personal journey and wanting their life means you want their journey and sometimes your life is better than it seems.
14. You heal with time
We all understand pain but the pain I feel is a pain that seemed like it would never go away. What it took me time to realize was that I had to give time time! I didn’t heal overnight. Healing is a process and we just have to learn to flow with time.
15. Be vulnerable!
If you know me you know I strongly dislike the word VULNERABLE! I’m not as open as people think and honestly I’m just now learning to be vulnerable and open up. I’ve shut so many people out because I was feared vulnerability but I’ve learned that people can actually help me when I open up.
16. Dress-up, Show-up, & Show OUT!
The sassy is finally coming out! Don’t let anyone tell you what you can and can’t wear well unless you have to be in uniform for whatever reason. Dress-up in whatever makes you feel good, show-up to your destination, and show out! Shut the room down because you’re making heads roll! Show off your confidence!
17. Don’t be afraid to shine
I was always the one person in the shadows of things because I really didn’t want to be in the way but I never understood why. I allowed others steal my shine for so long people wondered if I’d ever shine. Now I shine so bright you need shades on to see me! Don’t allow anyone to put you in the shadows because they want the spotlight. You deserve the spotlight too!
18. Live like everything is a passion
Our passion fuels us! I have many passions, seriously I have a love for many things, and I’ve learned to use my passions to my advantage! Everyday I wake up and go on about my day I do things with a passion. If you love what you do you’ll want to continue doing them even if you’re tired or having a bad day.
Laughter is the best medicine I don’t care what anyone says! It may be an old cliche but it’s a true cliche!
20. You don’t have to go out every night/weekend!
Don’t get me wrong I love going out with my friends BUT when does it get old? Yes I am 21 but going out every night or every weekend gets pretty old pretty fast! Sometimes staying in and having a movie night is fun.
21. ALWAYS make time for YOURSELF
The last thing I’ve learned is to take care of ME! Sometimes I get to focused on others that I forget about me and I have to take care of me before I can take care of others!
Now is that all I’ve learned in 21 years? OF COURSE NOT! But these 21 lesson are the most important! These 21 years have been interesting. I’ve had my good and I’ve had my bad but I wouldn’t change it for the world! I’ve seen 21 years and I can’t wait to see more! So even though my birthday was 2 weeks ago I must say it: HAPPY 21ST BIRTHDAY TO ME!