Insecurities in Relationships…

You know I’ve always wondered what drives someone in a relationship to be insecure? For the most part I know for a fact that it can be related past relationships but what about insecurities in life? Can insecurities from your past life effect your relationship?

Well I think it can!

The reason I am bringing this up is because of what’s been happening lately in a friends former relationship. Constant lying, cheating  arguing? Isn’t a relationship suppose to be built on trust  loyalty at least?

But here’s my main question: Should you allow past relationships & past life issues affect your relationship with the one you love?

You shouldn’t allow ANYTHING to effect your relationship! The quotes:

“Once Bitten Twice Shy.”

Is PERFECT when it comes to insecurity in relationships but you don’t have to live by it. Being insecure about ANYTHING in your relationship can drive anyone to be clingy & sometimes being too clingy can cause a problem. You have to be with that person 24/7 to assure yourself that the other person isn’t doing “anything wrong” & your partner may feel like they have NO space. Making assumptions just digs you into a grave you can’t climb out of.

You see problems that simply do not exist.

Now what about the other person? Their main question is: “Have I done something to piss he or she off?” When usually the answer is no.

Sometimes we have to put our past relationship & life choices on the back burners. You can’t create imaginary scenario’s. Separate you imagination from reality because they are two different worlds.

Spend time apart so both of ya’ll can breathe! Now I cant lie, if I see you 24/7 at some point I am going to choke you!

Don’t twist each others words and most importantly don’t compare your past relationships with your current relationship. You have to focus on the good and if your past relationships ended in Hell then how do you think this relationship will end if you keep repeating the same things over and over again?

Now I’m not saying you have to be 1,000% secure but at least be secure to a degree where you can trust one another & you aren’t questioning the loyalty & trust of your partner. You should be happy but you can’t find happiness if you are constantly wondering “what if.”

“At the end of the day, the goals are simple: safety and security.”

  ~Jodi Rell

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