What Does SELF LOVE Means to Me…

Has anyone heard “you know you need to loose weight” or “you need to go on a diet?” Well I have heard everything along those lines since middle school from doctors, friends (so called friends anyway), family and even strangers. Let me tell ya’ll unless you have been told that to your face you don’t know how that feels.

Now don’t get me wrong I know for a fact that there are many people out there who are under a size 12 who have been told the same thing or to even gain weight but the fact of the matter is that someone actually told you that. Sometimes it feels like I might be in a trance.

Do ya’ll want to know what self love means to me from my stand point? Well here goes: self love means having the confidence to be who you are even when people put you down and make you feel like you are a tiny ant in a world of butterflies. Since the beginning of time women have had to be the “perfect size.” This means that she must be a perfect size 2-4, at least 5ft 5in tall, thin and have the appearance of a goddess so I’ve seen and been told and that deteriorates anyone’s self love and confidence. But what about women, such as myself, who don’t meet the societal requirements? What about us, our self love, our confidence?

I for one am PROUD to be a thick chick! I always have been proud even when I was going through that awkward stage and was in the process of discovering my own sense of style. I am proud of the curves I have and will always flaunt them!

The bottom line is you don’t have to change to fit societies requirements because you have to fulfill your own requirements. Sometimes we cant control things such as body size but if you are happy with the way you are then why change?

So please don’t go on some dangerous diet or cosmetic surgery to satisfy someone else who has told you that you aren’t skinny enough, your not thick enough or even your not pretty enough because you are GORGEOUS just the way you are! Who cares if you have belly fat, if your thighs rub together when you walk or if you have small lips that aren’t as plump as Angelina Jolie’s? If a person has a problem with it then they aren’t looking deep within you they are only focused on your physical appearance and may not care about you because  they are too focused on their own self image and how you look with them. So in other words it’s like a box of chicken. If the side pieces (which would be a medium fry, a small bag of corn fritters and a biscuit)  don’t look attractive then it doesn’t matter what the chicken looks like because the side pieces look bad and if the side pieces look bad then it’s not edible!

So here is my message I’m trying to give: LOVE YOURSELF! Because if you don’t love yourself then no one else will love you and if you believe that you are just not attractive and that you are the ugliest thing that walked the planet Earth since dinosaurs then it’s going to be hard for someone else to see the love for yourself and why they should do the same.

I’m going to leave you with this quote:

 “When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.”
Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart

Now what does SELF LOVE mean to you?


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